Are You Obsessed With Your Ex?

When a relationship ends with someone you love, it’s normal to grieve.  It’s a huge loss.  You have spent time with this person and invested a part of your life.  You may be tearful and sad.  Usually intense grief occurs for approximately 3 months.  Yes, this person will be in your memories and heart for most of your life.  But, what happens when you just can’t shake this person and he consumes your thoughts?  You believe he’s made an awful mistake.  You might be heading down the wrong path.

You can become obsessed with someone quite easily.  You remember all the good times and you never thought it would end.  No matter what the reasons are there comes a time to let go.  He’s gone and you have to begin living again.  Easier said then done.

How do you decipher between normal feelings of grief and obsession?  It can be challenging to determine yourself.  Sometimes it’s helpful to ask those closest to you.  There are some signs of obsession.  Take the quiz and find out if it’s obsession.

1.  Are your thoughts consumed about your ex to the point where it’s difficult to focus at work or in situations which demand your attention?

2.  Do you think he’s made a terrible mistake and he’ll eventually change his mind and come to his senses?

3.  Do you have thoughts of suicide or not living without him?

4.  Do you check his Facebook, My Space, or Twitter page to find out what he’s up to or who he’s dating?

5.  Do you stay in contact with his friends and inquire about him?

6.  Have you stopped taking care of yourself or your environment (cleaning, cooking, or exercising)?

7.  Do you listen to old songs or look at old pictures repetitively?

8.  Are you broken up but continue to stay in a sexual relationship to be in his life?

If you answered ‘Yes’ to a total of 4 questions, there is a strong possibility you may be obsessed with your ex.  It’s time to let go and regain your life again.  Obsession is driven by a lack of self-worth.  You feel you are not enough when someone leaves.  You may feel abandoned and unlovable. This is not reality.  You have no idea why he left, but whatever reason it’s not about you.

Obsession serves a purpose for you.  I know that sounds weird.  You can use obsession to escape or avoid issues in your life.  You may be avoiding your finances, career, or life goals.  This is an opportunity for you to evaluate your life.  What’s working?  What’s not?  What areas have you neglected since you’ve been in this relationship?

This is a time to get back to you.  You are the most important person in your life.  It’s time to trust the universe.  If it’s meant to be it will happen without you working to make it happen.  Let him go, get back to living life fully and stay open to amazing people and things that are about to happen.